Expectations

Save for God Almighty, can any one ever decipher the intricate codes of the human mind, the tangled thoughts, the hidden agendas, the cruel or kind intentions? You think you know someone, but sooner or later you realize, your thinking may have been wrong. Or was it? Did the analysis/intuition go wrong because of our expectations? Do we have the right to judge people because we expected something else? Do we expect too much from the people we love and care about? Why do we put such unncessary pressure, knowingly or unknowingly, on the people we love the most? But is it wrong to expect? Is it possible to live without any expectations? Is expectation equivalent to hope? Even if we don't have any expectations, or we say we don't have any, deep down inside, don't we all expect something? Parents expect certain things of their children, children in turn expect certain things from their parents, lovers expect each other to be kind and caring throughout, friends expect their friendship to last for ever. But what happens when expectations crumble? Does it affect the relationship in turn? Should we burden a beautiful relationship by piling on fair/unfair expectations? So many questions, but so few answers..

Stressed?

I got this in my morning email and I could not help but laugh. :) So thought I will share it with the world.

Stress: The confusion created when one's mind overrides the body's basic desire to choke the living crap out of some jerk who desperately needs it.

Feeling better? :)

Life Ain't All HaHa HeHe!!

"Uncertainty and mystery are energies of life. Don't let them scare you unduly, for they keep boredom at bay and spark creativity."

When I read this quote for the first time my immediate reaction was to smirk and say Right!!!, atleast to the Uncertainty portion. But then I got thinking. Not definitely for chronic worriers, but the quote has some truth in it. The great thing about life and what keeps it infinitely exciting, is inspite of you trying to plan and predict, you will have absolutely no clue what's in store until you actually live it. We may live under a false sense of safety and security, thinking we have planned and envisioned carefully, that the chances of life springing you sudden suprises is kept to a bare minimum.

However, most often this is not the case. Events, people, places all have the possibility to become curve balls thrown at you, when you least expect. But the question is how much excitement can one take? Even though I am all for adventure sports and exciting things, there are times when you rather sit back and lead a simple life that hardly deviates from the ordinary. It may be perhaps there is only so much excitement you can handle and as you grow older, you crave for stability rather than constant chaos.

I for one love to travel. I have always thought it is one of life's simplest pleasures. To see new places, understand new cultures, meet new faces, get a souvenir or two. But then when life becomes a constant commute, does it still hold the same excitement? And if there is a good measure of uncertainty thrown into the mix as well, although like the quote says, boredom may be kept at bay, but your sanity too? I doubt. :)

I guess a lot depends on the way you handle it. If you think wherever the road takes you, whatever happens, however things turn out, you will cooly take it all in your stride, and nothing could ever be so bad that you can't accept or adjust, then I think uncertainty and mysteries can certainly spice up your life. A small dose of both is definitely welcome.

Ultimately, what really makes the difference is, accepting there will be surprises, good, bad and the ugly, knowing you can handle it, and doing so gracefully, and telling yourself, whatever happens, it surely must be for the good.

Back!

In case you are wondering what the heck happened to my blog?

Well, it finally got a make over. But at a huge price, and I take full responsibility.

In a momentary lapse of judgement, I deleted my blog. I tried not to care, but ended up spending a sleepless night with many tormenting dreams on how could I and why on earth?? So to cut a long story short, I knew I just had to resurrect my blog as fast as I could. And more than the posts, it is actually the comments left by all my dear blog pals that I miss. So with apologies to everyone, I make another attempt to do some straight talkin' again.